the parties that i have done for mates have been pretty aweosme in that i have full creative freedom, if i do requests no one is really too pushy, but on the odd occassion a couple have been a little too pushy and i did what defkon said, basically said 'ill play it, but you gotta find it for me. theres my cd wallet, go through it and find the song ur after' she was happy with that, and i didnt have to waste time looking for it